Because
why should a vagina be hidden in shame?
Achor, 53, a Web site producer and Internet project manager, is
on a mission to proclaim the vagina as a symbol of the creative
and sacred power of womankind.
"Our wombs are our power source, the place where we create
life," she said. "Women are the root; we are the source.
We need to begin to honor the source."
She is aware that strictly anatomically speaking, her designs
are not of a vagina. "These are really vulvas, but for some
reason, vulva doesn't sound sexy," she said.
An ebullient feminist who shares a cottage home in this Northern
California town with her husband of 23 years and a lively herd
of five Chihuahuas, Achor has created a line of vagina-shaped
pillows, pens and purses to encourage reverence for women's genitalia.
Achor sees her work as complementing that of playwright and activist
Eve Ensler, whose show "The Vagina Monologues" has invited
women to explore their feelings about their genitals and has sparked
an international movement to end violence against women and girls.
In
the folded shapes with which she adorns journals and pens, Achor
is following in the footsteps of feminist artists like Judy Chicago,
who in the 1970s began using images of the vulva to symbolize
womanhood. Many viewers saw similar symbolism in the flower paintings
Georgia O'Keeffe created in the early 20th Century, although O'Keeffe
objected to such interpretations.
"Women
in the '70s were trying to define themselves," said Marilyn
Dunn, an art historian at Loyola University Chicago who teaches
courses on women and art. They "were looking for some kind
of form to value women's experience, women's distinctive identity
and female power."
They chose imagery based on the folded shape of the vulva, which
was seen as "something distinctly feminine," Dunn said.
But it has not been without detractors.
"It can also be seen as reducing women to biological essentialism,
the thinking that everything is biologically determined and that
defines women completely," Dunn said. And such images can
reinforce the stereotype that women belong to the realm of nature
while men are aligned with reason, she said.
Achor is the local organizer of the 2006 V-Day fundraising performance
of "The Vagina Monologues" in Sonoma County, and will
travel to Miami this week to sell her vagina-themed wares at a
kickoff for some 200 V-Day organizers around the country.
A Microsoft-certified software engineer who moves easily in the
cerebral world of e-commerce, Achor says she thinks women are
indeed strongly influenced by biology and a close connection with
nature. She thinks these aspects of women's lives should be honored,
not seen as inferior.
On her Web site (www.badmimi.com), visitors can read her mission
statement, in which Achor describes how having children transformed
her.
"As I pushed my babies out into the world I felt like the
most powerful being on Earth. It was the single most healing experience
of my life. I have been a lioness at heart ever since. I knew
what I had between my legs and no one was ever going to tell me
otherwise.
"Over the next few decades I reconnected with my genitalia.
I came to realize that my intuition and ability to love like a
lioness came from this part of myself. Tracking feelings of power,
warmth, and `knowing' lead me back to the seat of my femininity,
the sacred magical flower that lies between my legs."
Asked to visit the site, Martha Thompson, professor of sociology
and women's studies at Northeastern Illinois University, came
away ambivalent.
"I loved her mission statement; it's very celebratory and
women-centered," she said. But some of the products, she
said, reflected "much more of a traditional, male-centered
view of sexuality." For example, BadMimi.com sells thong
underpants with a risque demand printed on them.
Achor
described the thong's message as her personal response to denigrating
attitudes toward women's bodies.
"We've heard our whole life the whole thing about vaginas
being smelly, ugly and dirty, so, yeah, there is a touch of anger
there."
The idea of designing vagina items began to brew when Achor's
friends, well-acquainted with her strong feelings about female
power, made her a gift for her 50th birthday.
"It
was a big vagina altar," she said fondly. "When you
opened up this box, it was almost like a picture frame, and in
the center they had a picture of me. It was almost like giving
birth to myself."
Her husband, Rodger Bridwell, was taken aback.
"I was shocked," he said. "You open [the box] up
and there's that vagina in there. But then you open up and start
listening to the derogatory attitudes people have." And he
wasn't shocked any more.
Achor
treasured the altar so much that when a friend was about to have
a baby, she tried to buy her some kind of vagina icon on which
she could focus during labor, to give her strength and reassurance.
She couldn't find a thing.
"There was not one vagina anything," she said. "Not
even a joke. I mean, you can find penis everything--key chains,
hot sauce, you name it. But I couldn't find anything. It was like
the vagina doesn't exist."
The
physically hidden nature of women's genitals has meant that they
are rarely depicted in art as compared with male genitals, said
Carrie Brecke, who teaches feminist theories of the body in Roosevelt
University's Department of Women's and Gender Studies.
The
result has been disastrous for women, she said.
"What
happens ... is that it becomes mysterious, which usually translates
into monstrous," she said. "We fear that which is hidden."
Achor
began designing products that would take the vagina into public
view, chose the name BadMimi--a nickname from her grandson, who
calls her "Mimi," when she wouldn't let him have his
way--hired a manufacturer and placed BadMimi.com online and in
stores.
Customer reaction at Milk & Honey, a store in Sebastapol,
Calif., that sells the BadMimi line, has been intense.
"People
love it," said Candra Rainey, one of the store's owners.
"They will gather in the tantric [sex] section where we display
the little ... purses. People will bring their friends back to
see it."
And women buy the items, she said. "The biggest response
is women feeling empowerment and pride," she said. "...
To have somebody make these products in a way that's almost humorous--[Achor]
can cross the line with people who feel timid or shy."
Women
have sent Achor heartfelt messages of gratitude through her Web
site.
"You are so right on about how we women are taught from an
early age we should not touch or look at our vaginas," one
wrote. "I have never thought mine was beautiful. I actually
have always thought MINE is ugly!!!
"...
Believe me, from now on I will try to remember that it is like
a diamond, the doorway to heaven!"
"There's just this huge ball of neurosis surrounding the
whole subject of vaginas and women's genitalia," Achor said.
"We have to break it all open."
Inside that ball, she said, is a treasure that can transform women's
lives once they realize it. She urges that transformation in the
words on a BadMimi T-shirt: "Live like you have diamonds
between your legs."